counsellor london | Working in Organization

An organization is a group of people with a systematic structure that is managed to meet a certain need and to pursue collective goals on an on-going basis. The members of the organization have functions and specific relations for accomplishing the goals for which they assembled in that particular form of organization. Organizations are open systems in which roles, responsibilities and authority work together to carry out defined tasks. (www.businessdictionary.com). According to Kakabadse, Bank & Vinniecombe (2005), a few essential factors are crucial for the well functioning of an organizations: 1) A gifted manager, passionate towards his domain who also has humanist values and is capable of motivating his employees, of understanding and guiding them in a healthy fashion, while maintaining a sense of authority. 2) Motivation: even though the extrinsic motivation (financial, for social status, for professional recognition etc) is extremely important, the intrinsic motivation also counts very much. If we spend 8 hours every day doing something that we don’t enjoy at all, all the money in the world won’t be able to buy our happiness. Notions about needs, expectations and rewards constitute the basis of an efficient organizational strategy. 3) Teamwork – an organization is, by definition, a team sport. Collaboration, competition, group roles and group thinking are factors that lead to the success of an organization, but also to the individual development of the group’s members. 4) Diversity and individual differences – an heterogeneous group, in which diversity is being encouraged and differences are being cultivated, may seem at first as a bit more difficult to control. However, with good management, with an organizational culture that respects differences and with a strategy that is aware of them, the group can actually be more efficient than a homogenous one. Differences related to age, sex, religion and physical appearance must be understood and integrated within the group so that the people can actually work together as a team and respect those around as individuals. Working in an organization always implies: mastering certain effective interpersonal communication methods, establishing means of communicating with the group as an entity in of itself, having the capacity to face imminent conflicts and to resolve them constructively, the capacity of setting up and maintaining an organizational policy and also having an understanding of the mechanisms and traps of power. Any individual working in an organization should benefit from the support of a counselor. Usually, organizations have a counseling service for personal or organizational matters, so that an optimal efficient communications between the different structures of the organization can be facilitated. People working in such places spend at least half of their waking state at the work-place and need to identify it with a place where they enjoy spending their time. Any problem, from minor issues such as where a desk should be positioned to issues like relations with colleagues or people outside of the organization can affect the productivity of an individual and his/her contributions to the fulfillment of the organization’s goals. For this reason, a great deal of emphasis is placed in the organizational culture on organizational psychology and on the tasks of those who practice it (psychologists, counselors, trainers, coaches etc). The purposes or organizational psychology are: (1) raise performance, (2) improve processes and relationships, (3) enhance fairness and equity and (4) increase subjective well-being. (http://gsappweb.rutgers.edu/programs/org/definition.php) The interventions that psychologists can make in order to fulfill these objectives are based on various theories and psychological concepts, however they all follow, in principle, a progression of stages – diagnosis, design and implementation of intervention strategy, evaluation of results. What’s most important to remember – both for those who lead the organization as well as for those who are aspiring to be a part of it – is that organizational culture influences the individual’s life much more than exclusively professional. For this, a certain initial compatibility between the individual’s personality and organizational culture must be established (Lejeune & Vas, online). The process of adapting to an organization will always be different from one person to the other (depending on one’s own rhythm, resistance to change, motivation, expectations etc) and the staff qualified to ease this process of adaptation must not be missing from any type of organization. However, if you are facing difficulties related to the organization that you are involved with (you no longer feel good there, work relations have transformed, the organizational policy is not in tune with your beliefs, you feel the need for something new etc) and you don’t have a department of psychological and vocational counseling to help you, don’t be afraid to search for answers by yourself. Choose a counselor who is capable of listening to you and discover together with him/her what needs to be done. What happens at the work place can affect our lives completely, so it would be best to not hesitate to ask for help when we feel the need to do so.

Death In The Consulting Room-psychotherapy harley street

Fear of dying is something normal. On the other hand, death itself is an intrinsic element of existence and all of us have to make peace with the fact that, sooner or later, we will all have to face the great unknown. Whether we’re talking about the death of somebody close to us, the passing away of someone whom we greatly admire, of a pet or even when it comes to our own demise, accepting death oftentimes implies considerable efforts and a great emotional overcharge. Episodes of depression can sometimes be excruciatingly intense, sometimes accompanied by the feeling that the sadness of the loss will never go away. This is why the support of a counselor or psychotherapist can prove to provide real help, together with the support of the family and friends. Living through the mourning process adequately, passing through all of its stages and moving beyond it are things that require time, dedication, understanding and support. A therapist can offer these in a professional manner, so that the grieving person can be able to integrate the experience and continues his/her existence. The grieving process: Most often, people address the therapist in order to ease the mourning process. Being in mourning often completely transforms a person’s whole lifestyle, affecting his/her work rhythm, the ordinary pleasure that one would find in regular activities, one’s emotions, thinking patterns, behavior and even sensations being drastically altered. In the case of normal mourning processes (uncomplicated grief), people exhibit: somatic or bodily distress at times, a preoccupation with the image of the deceased, guilt towards the deceased or the circumstances under which he/she died, hostility and an inability to function at normal parameters, as one would have before the tragic event (Lindemann, 1944). A sixth symptom is also sometimes observed in some grieving people: the borrowing of behavioral traits from the deceased. Going through the mourning process is time and energy consuming because, “viewed from a constructivist perspective, grieving is a process of reconstructing a world of meaning that has been challenged by loss” (Neimeyer, Burke, Mackay & van Dyke Stringer, 2009). Stages of the grieving process: Kubler-Ross (1969) suggests that the stages are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. These stages are experienced both by people who are about to die and by their close ones. Sometimes, reactions such as shock, numbness or physical pain may appear. Worden (1999) believes that people who are going through the mourning process must pass through the following stages: acceptance of the loss – implies accepting the idea of loss both cognitively, as well as emotionally. If the initial shock is powerful and people often deny the situation, the funeral can be perceived in a way as the first step taken on the road of acceptance. acceptance of pain – it is absolutely normal and even recommended to allow pain to manifest itself. Repressing pain feelings can affect the whole latter course of the individual’s life, leading to unauthentic experiences (with other, in relation to one’s own life events, etc) changing the context – the individual learns to accept his/her environment once again, this time without the presence of the person who has passed away letting go of the past – the individual emotionally relocates the deceased and continues his/her life. Moving on beyond the moment helps them depart from the past in a healthy manner, allowing them to concentrate on the present, on the important people in their present and on their future life plans. Methods and types of psychotherapy for grief: The methods that are being applied in therapy and that have been proven to give results are meaning making in bereavement (understanding why it happened helps in accepting that it happened), therapeutic writing (goodbye letters), narrative retelling (describing the situation when the loved one died and reliving that situation in a safe context), metaphor and evocative visualization (Neimeyer, Burke, Mackay & van Dyke Stringer, 2009). In the same time, art-therapy seems very useful in overcoming the moment of loss. The images that are created, being products very close to the realm of the unconscious, can provide starting points for discussions that the conscious would have normally never brought forth in a conversation (Irwin, 1991). Group therapy is also very useful, having the advantage of hastening the grieving process and of promoting coping skills, allowing the individual to remember and commemorate the deceased, allowing for the creation of healing rituals, helping to organize and regain a sense of containment and promoting the exploration and expression of feelings in a safe, larger context (Simon, 1981). For a lot of people, the loss of a loved one may correspond with a total transformation of one’s own life. People begin to feel an overbearing importance in major questions regarding one’s life, as well as concerning more ample contexts, such as human existence in itself and the world and its natural course. In these cases, they can oftentimes make use of long term therapies, such as analytical or existential therapies. Every individual has the chance to find a way in which to keep the memory of the loved one alive and to continue his/her life. With the help of the right therapist, the loss of a loved one will still be an extremely painful experience, but it will have a much greater potential for self development.